The Confidence Blog

This weekend I was watching a movie and a little girl was saying how she would feel pretty if she had a new dress.  The adult in the movie was telling her it’s how you feel in the inside that counts.  She said that was self-confidence.  For me, I thought it would be self-esteem. So I got to thinking, what is the difference between self confidence and self-esteem?

According to the dictionary:

Self -Confidence: belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-reliance; assurance

Self –Esteem: reflects a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of her or his own worth. Self respect.

My definition:

Self Confidence is about your ability.  Do you think you can do a good job? Do you think you can accomplish something you put your mind to?

Self Esteem is about the self.  How do you feel about you?  Do you like you?  Do you love you?  Do you have self worth?

Low Self Confidence is about fear of performing and low self-esteem is about not loving you.

Example:  Let’s say you have to give a presentation to a large group of people, and you are extremely nervous, because you are afraid of making a mistake. This would mean you lack confidence, because you question your ability.  On the other hand, you are afraid, because you are afraid of how people will judge you.  This would mean you lack self-esteem, because you are questioning your own self worth.

I have found that self-confidence and self-esteem go hand in hand. As you start to love and trust yourself your self esteem improves, and as your self esteem improves, you start to take risks, because you feel good about you.  When you take risks, your self confidence improves, because now you are doing things you’ve wouldn’t have done before.

The same thing happens when you start increasing yours self confidence.  As your self confidence builds, your self esteem improves, because you start counting your success, which make you feel good about you.

I no longer worry about self confidence or self esteem.  I just focus on being the best me, and showing up as my authentic self.  When I do I have both self confidence and self esteem.

How about you?  Are you ready to live as your authentic self?  The first step is commitment.

Are you ready to commit?

To Your Success,

Diana

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