The Confidence Blog

I was walking my dog the other morning, and I was in deep thought.  I had been recently hurt by a good friend and was struggling letting go of the hurt.  While I was walking, my dog gave a small bark, and I noticed standing on the other side of the street were two dear.  I was surprised, because usually you don’t see deer at 9:30 in the morning.

As I stood gazing at them, and they stood watching me, I felt they were communicating with me and a sense of wonder filled me. I started to walk away, and I turned around to watch them gracefully fade away. 

As I watched them trot gracefully away, I noticed how effortlessly they took turns taking the lead.  There was no controlling, competition, or arguing. 

Another thing I observed, they were a pair.  It made me think, how companionship, friendship and support are really important.

I continued on my walk and started to feel an overwhelming feeling of compassion.  Tears started to stream down my face, and as I continued to walk, I was overwhelmed with love. 

I ponder the deer, because I knew they were a catalyst. And I asked myself the following questions: Why did the deer bring up this feeling of love and compassion?  What do deer represent to me?

For me, deer represent grace and beauty, and then I knew, innocent.  As I watched them, I felt their innocence.

At that moment, I realized we are all innocent, and we all deserve compassion.

As I continued my walk, I allowed my hurt and disappointment to melt away and be replaced with compassion. With each step I started to feel good about who I am.

I read once, that we can find answers in nature.  And I did. 

I am so appreciative of tapping into something higher then myself that morning.  For when I felt the tears and the overwhelming love, I knew it was coming from a loving source.

When we hold on to hurt, disappointment, and blame, there is no room for love, understanding and forgiveness.

Start making room today!

Diana.

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I imagine my body is like a piano, ready at a moments notice to confidently play beautiful uplifting music.  All I have to do is keep it in tune. 

Keeping yourself in tuned is a consistent process.

First – know what you want

Second – let go of the fear of not having it

Third – when you see an opportunity, take ACTION!

It’s time to start changing your thought patterns.  When a thought and feeling comes up that doesn’t support what you want, change it, or let it go.  Reinforce your issue with a new thought and better feeling.  When you do this, the Law of Attraction will kick in.

What happens when you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings?   On the physical side, your brain will start to “rewire” itself, to match your new behavior and thought patterns.  In order to make permanent changes in your brain, and behavior, YOU MUST be consistent.  Consistency is the key to making life changing habits. 

Also, your body, will tell you the truth.  Therefore, it is important to become aware of your feelings and where you feel them in your body. 

Here is a body/feeling connection exercise you can do.

Take a deep cleansing breath – close your eyes and think of something sad, feel the feeling and see where you feel it in your body.  Then do the same for anger, frustration, and hopelessness.  Where in your body do you feel these feeling?  Now, repeat the exercise and see where hope, happiness, joy, peace and love are n your body. 

Knowing where these feelings are in your body will help you determine when you are in or out of tune.

Sadness, anger, frustration and hopelessness will keep you out of tune with source energy, whereas love, joy, peace and happiness will connect you to source energy, the universe, GOD, or whatever higher power you believe in.

When someone or something hits a key and you feel yourself playing out of tune, you know it’s your signal to “tune the instrument.” Remember playing with a tuned instrument will keep you connected with source energy, the universe or GOD

And, being connected is the way to manifest a joyful, fulfilling life.

Did you ever listen to music that brought you so much joy it raised your vibrations, and you felt so much love toward the world and everyone in it? 

Imagine feeling that all the time.  You can, when you stay In Tuned!

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Would you believe failing can be a good thing?

Failing can allow us to learn from our mistakes.
Failing can allow us to determine what we really want.

In my opinion, it is considered failing when whatever happens keeps you stuck.  You start beating yourself up, and don’t take the risk to try again.  If you tend to do that, then yes I can see why you would think you have failed.

The successful confident person is the one who ask questions and tries again and again until they succeed. 

The other day I was speaking with a friend and I was telling her what I had just discovered one of my limited beliefs.  I was reading Napoleon Hill and he was speaking about Andrew Carnegie on how he went from nothing to having more than 100 million dollars.  And the thought and feeling came over me that he is the exception, not the norm.  Now with all my training and my own life experience I know that statement was based in fear, not logic, because I know we can have and do anything we want to, because we create our own reality.  So I did some EFT on the new information that came up, and released the feeling and thought that only Andrew Carnegie could do this, because he was a rare breed ,and I wasn’t in his league.  It made me realized how fear could make me feel like a failure. 

I remember when I was working on my self-confidence issues I use to think I was a failure, and how I was afraid of failing.  For me it was because they would be right.   “They” were my elders and my family.  My family culture was to find a job, and stay in it until you died, and it didn’t matter if you hated it.  Security was the top thing.  You had to be secure.  YOU DON’T TAKE ANY RISK! Then I came along, someone who always wanted to do things differently.  Against my family wishes, I would try something different, and sometimes it wouldn’t work out, and I would have to deal with, I told you so. 

What happened?  I started to be conditioned to not take a risk until I was sure I was going to succeed.  And I ended up doing exactly what I didn’t want to do.  Getting into jobs I hated.  Afraid to leave the security, the steady, and I might add, low paying salary. 

Starting my self-confidence journey has been the biggest risk I have ever taken.  I had to learn how to change old patterns and old ways of thinking.  Yes, I have make mistakes, and at times have fallen back into old patterns, but I’ve learned to learn from those mistakes, and now see the opportunities they present.   I no longer see them as failures.

When you ask yourself what if I fail? Instead ask, where is the opportunity? What can I do next to succeed?  What have I learned? What can I do differently? Once you have answered your questions, reevaluated, and ask do I still want this? Asking this question will help you clarify on what you really do want.

As you can see, failing can be a good thing.  Me personally, I don’t like the word failing, I prefer to say, “Well, that didn’t work, what can I do to make it work?”

Remember, the only person who can make you feel, think and sound like a failure is you.  The next time you ask yourself the question “What if I fail?”  Immediately ask, “How can I succeed?”
 
To Your Success!

Diana

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I love this time of year because there is a spirit of giving, and loving.  It’s also a time of reflection.  How was 2008 for you? 

Take a moment and review your year.  If you kept a journal, this is a good time to reread some of you entries. Did you hit any of your goals? 

As you review, I invite you to look for all the insights you have received, and all your successes, big or small. I also invite you to count your blessings, gratitude’s, and appreciations.

I appreciate all the people who have contacted me with their confidence question.  I am grateful for the opportunity to be of service.

Thank You, and whichever holiday you celebrate, may it be filled with happiness, joy and peace.

Bless you all,

Diana 

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I would like to share an experience I had the other day.  A coworker and I were taking a walk. When we returned to the building, someone ask us how our walk was.  We answered at the same time.  I said wonderful, and she said terrible and started to explain why.  I don’t know what she said because I was so shocked by the word terrible.

During the day, I would think about it and become baffle.  Actually, I felt like I had cotton in my head, because I just couldn’t fathom why she said our walk was terrible.  For me it was great, the weather was beautiful, the sky a clear blue with white fluffy clouds.  The sun was warm, with a slight cool breeze, which kept me from getting overheated.  It felt great to be out of the office and in the sunshine and fresh air.  So for me, to hear that our walk was terrible I just didn’t understand it.

Later that night, as I was writing in my journal recalling the day’s events, all of a sudden I realized something important.  The old me, would have taken her comment personally.  I would have thought because she had a terrible time, it was about me; I was lousy company, or poor conversationalist. I would have owned it as my problem.  Now my self-esteem and self-confidence knows that it is not my issue, but hers.

So who was right, my walking companion or I?  Was the walk Terrible or Wonderful?

We are both right.

Now I understand how two people can experience the same event and have completely different experiences and both are correct! 

How?

We all live in our own reality.  Our reality consists of our own life experience, personality and thought patterns.

If you expect to see the worse of something or someone you are going to find it.   The same goes for looking for the best.  If you look for the best in something, or someone you will find it.

During our walk, my companion found fault in everything, and complained about her life situation, and the people she encounters.  She walked with an unhappy attitude.  Therefore, she saw the walk as terrible.

In my reality, I was grateful for the nice weather, I was grateful for the opportunity to be outside.  For me, because I did my walk with appreciation, I enjoyed it. Therefore, it felt Wonderful.

So how about you?

Leave a comment and let us know,” How are you currently walking through life?   And does it match with, “How do you want to walk through life?”  

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