I was sitting in my kitchen thinking about the client I had recently helped. They were able to remember a childhood trauma that was interfering with their ability to lose weight.  They not only released the trauma from their subconscious, but I helped them release it from their body.  This trauma had manifested in their stomach, like an ulcer.

As I was reminiscing, I started to shift through my childhood, and these Cliché’s popped into my mind.  It takes one to know one, and Sticks and stones might hurt my bones but words will never hurt me.  At the time, I use to say these when someone would call me a name. It is not until now, that I understand the meaning behind these words.

Have you ever had someone judge or put a label on you?  It usually starts with you are . . . stupid, lazy, selfish, mean, unkind, arrogant, conceited, a slob, and fat.  The list can go on.  As a child, I usually heard I was lazy, selfish and a fat pig. How about you?  Stop and take a moment and write down what people said to you that hurt.

When I was a child, and other children would call me names, I learned how to say. . . It takes one to know one, or Sticks and stones might hurt my bones but words will never hurt me.” At the time, I did not really know what it meant; it just felt good to shout it back.  However, when I heard name calling from a parent, teacher or any authority figure, it was crushing and I believe that something was wrong with me.  I wasn’t allowed to yell back It takes one to know one, or Sticks and stones might hurt my bones but words will never hurt me.

As an adult, I now realized not only was it crushing; I accepted it as a truth.  For years, I was afraid to ask for what I wanted for fear of being considered selfish.  I have always thought I was a fat pig, even when I was healthy and at the correct weight.  I would feel I was being judged as lazy if everything in my life was not neat and orderly.

How did I handle it?  I would shut down, beat myself up, or lashed out.  I frequently would “cut off my nose to spite my face.”

How did I overcome this?

First – I became aware of what triggered me.  I started to pay attention to my reactions when I felt someone was judging me.

Second – I used hypnosis to get to the “core” of my issue, and release it.

Third – I realized that the only way someone could hurt me with words, is if I let them.  If I let them, it meant deep down I believed it was true.

As I worked on my issues, and beliefs, I became like Teflon, anytime anyone said something to hurt me, it never stuck.  If it did, then I knew it was my cue to see what belief I still held.

As I started to release my childhood traumas, my self-confidence and self-esteem started to build.  When my self-esteem started to increase, I felt good about me.  I had worth.  As my confidence grew, I was able to ask for what I wanted, without feeling selfish.

Like me, you too can overcome the judgments from others.  If someone calls you names, remember words will never hurt you… only if you let them.  If they do, ask yourself, what is the belief around the hurt?

To Your Success!

Diana

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I am a big fan of the Abraham teachings provided by Esther and Jerry Hicks.  I started reading the book Money and the Law of Attraction.  I’ve already listened to the audio version several times, and I decided to read the book also.  I was reading the Preface, written by Jerry Hicks, and a light bulb went off in my head.  It finally clicked for me.  I am creating my world, my reality.  Whatever happens to me, or wherever I am in life, is because of my desire and the choices I’ve made.  When Jerry was explaining about his desires and how they manifested for him, I finally understood.

I went back through my life and remembered the times when I truly wanted something. Not wanting it out of  desperation, but because I truly desired it.  Whether it was a better job, or a new relationship, or something material, when I desired it without knowing how it was going to come, I received it, and most of the time it came out of left field, which surprised me.  When I look back, I see I got what I had asked for.

Now I am at a time in my life when I am learning how to create deliberately, and I have to laugh because I am still amazed when I get what I want.  And it still comes out of left field.

For Example:  I’ve always wanted a cat with brown eyes.  I know someone who has exotic cats with brown eyes, and I’ve always admired them.  Just recently someone abandon a kitten in my front yard and she is a pretty 7 week old Calico cat.  I was looking at her the other day and realized she has brown eyes!  They look like chocolate milk.  I was stunned, and then immediately said my appreciation for this wonderful gift. I now have a cat with brown eyes!

The last 6 years I have been on a journey to find joy and to become a happier person.  I’ve accomplished releasing the fear and worry from my life.  I’ve learned how to take risk, and jump out of my comfort zone.  I’ve learned how to love myself.  The by-product has been increase self-esteem and self-confidence.

The idea of getting what I want was exciting to me, but first I had to release some ‘baggage” or “limited beliefs” I had collected from my past.  The belief I was being “selfish” when I wanted to put me first.  The belief that I can’t have what I want.  As I cleared a limited belief away another on would pop up.  It reminded me of a PEZ dispenser, each time I took a limited belief out, another one would pop up, ready to be worked on.  I use to think it was hopeless, I would never be finished. Then my life started changing.  I started looking forward to the next limited belief, because it clarified what I wanted, and brought me closer to the joy I was seeking.

I use to ask myself, if I create my reality, how come I don’t have what I want?  Then I realized I do have what I want.  What I have is what I’ve asked for and ALLOWED to happen.  If I don’t have everything that I want, then it’s because I have a belief it can’t happen, or I don’t have a clear vision of it, or I don’t believe I am worthy, or whatever.  It isn’t here because I have not ALLOWED it to MANIFEST.

As I mentioned before, I have been on my journey to find joy and to be a happy person.  And I have accomplished that goal.  I AM HAPPY.  Each morning I wake up filled with joy and anticipation of creating what I want.  Life still throws me some curves, but with the tools I have collected, Hypnosis, The Sedona Method, EFT and my belief that I have the POWER to change things. I get through.  It’s like my happiness and joy are my life saver.  Once in a while a tidal wave will wash over me, but my life preserver of joy keeps me afloat until the danger passes.  My tools help me paddle safely to shore.

YOU can have what you want.  All you have to do is decide what you do want.  Be clear and FOCUS on what you desire. Do not focus on what you don’t have, instead keep focusing on what you WANT!

Start Manifesting TODAY!

I Love you ALL!

Diana

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As I was driving to work I realized that I had allowed my friend to put a fear into me that I normally didn’t have.  Her fear eroded my self confidence in driving on a particular road.

Let me explain.

Every day I drive the same road, it is called a bypass, and it ends at a curve.  A couple of weeks ago I was driving with my friend. We were laughing having a good time, until we approach this curve.  All of a sudden she screamed and said WATCH OUT.  Immediately my heart started to race, and my instincts kicked in.  I grabbed the wheel tighter, checked my mirrors and looked around for impending danger. All while in the middle of taking the curve.

When I ask her why she screamed, she said she thought there was ice on the road, and thought we were going to slide.  Mind you, it was a clear day, and the road was dry.  I assured her the road was fine.  I had experience and confidence with this part of the road, because in the last 8 months I have driven the road 5 days a week in all sorts of weather.

I thought the incident was over, but today I realized it wasn’t.  What happen… the very next time I reached the same spot; I heard her scream and felt myself lose my confidence. I was afraid I was going to go into a skid.  Then as the memory started to pass away, day by day, I wasn’t aware I was losing my confidence on that stretch of road.  Even though I wasn’t conscious of it, my body and behavior told another story.  I would slow down, I was unsure, my body would tense slightly, and I would hold my breath.  Then I started to rationalize.  Well her screaming WATCH OUT was a warning for me not to drive to fast, or I needed to learn how to slow down, or, maybe, I needed to take a safer route.

Last week, as I was driving, I started to think about the curve and I was 5 miles away!  Then it hit me, her actions had undermined my confidence.  I allowed her action to undermine my confidence.  I didn’t do it consciously, but unconsciously.

 As I was driving I could see it clearly.  What happened to me is what I call a typical impact moment.  A moment that impacts you forever, fear goes pass your conscious mind directly into your unconscious mind.  This is how a limited belief, fear or a phobia is created.  I was in an emotional happy place, and BAM – fear was directed at me.  That fear went directly into my subconscious mind.  Visually I can see it in my minds eye, you know those yellow signs, caution when wet?  Well, that is what I see, so anytime I was near the curve or any other curve like it, CAUTION and DOUBT came up. My subconscious mind was at work keeping me safe.

What happens is when fear by-passes the conscious mind, and goes directly into the subconscious mind, the subconscious minds holds on to it, so when a similar danger occurs, we take natural precaution. Meaning we react instead of act.

I am very appreciative of having this insight and awareness, because now I can reprogram my subconscious mind.

Here is the process I used to eliminate my fear.

Awareness
Decide
Action

Awareness: I became aware because I listen to my body and thoughts.

Decide:  Once I was aware of my problem, I made the decision to change it.  I no longer wanted the fear to rule my life.

Action:  I took action by picking the tool that would serve me the best.  I could use EFT to tap it away. I could use the Sedona Method and release it away. Or I could use Hypnosis and eliminate the fear and replace it with confidence.

That is what I did. 

I no longer think or worry about reaching the curve.  Sometimes when I remember, I just give a little laugh and think how foolish I was.

Find the tool, or combination of tools that will help you release your limiting beliefs, fears or phobias.  

Your subconscious will thank you.

To Your Success!

Diana

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