The Confidence Blog

A lot of people have written asking the question, “How do I build up my confidence?” 

A couple of years ago, I had asked the same question.  I knew I wanted to be more confident, but didn’t know where to start. 

What  I want to do is answer your question by telling you my own personal journey to self-confidence.  I am hoping to inspire you by showing how I overcame my fears, uncertainties and struggles. 

I can tell my story because I keep a journal.  I write in it when I am confused, frustrated, and angry. Also, especially when I get that Ah-ha moment.  I am happy that I’ve written about my personal growth.  Not only because I can share it with you, but because I can read back and see how much I have grown. 

I will share a valuable lesson I learned.  I missed seeing my accomplishments.  Why? I was focused on what I had lost in the past, and what I wanted in the future.  The lesson I learned, and now share with you, be in the present.  Acknowledge all your achievements, no matter how big or small. 

What did I want to change about myself?  I was in a marriage that was draining the life out of me, a job that was expecting me to work 24/7 and with the continual downsizing was beyond stressful.  The bulk of my family moved 1000 miles away.  I was afraid to make a decision about anything in my personal life.  In my business life, I had learned to be somewhat confident.  In my personal life I was a mess.  My childhood traumas were starting to resurface; I guess it was time to deal with them too. 

I was afraid, unhappy, lonely and just existing in life.  I had lost sight of the young women who spoke her mind, who wanted to accomplish so much.  I was born with an independent, free spirited soul.  However, continually reacting to life instead of living life, gave me a life full of details.  I found myself dealing with problem after problem.  I had lost sight of my dreams, and most importantly lost sight of who I was. 

My children were grown and out of the house. Here I was, this person I no longer recognized, and doing the things I swore I would never do.  I realized something had to change… me. 

My first step was making the decision to take care of me.  I didn’t have the foggiest idea how I was going to accomplish this. I just knew that it was what I wanted.

This is my story.  We all have our own stories.  I’ve discovered the important thing is to recognize it and make the decision to move on from there.  We can’t change what happen, and we don’t know for sure what the future will bring.  We can only be certain on what is happening now at this moment.

Through my journey I’ve discovered many things.  Here is another lesson I will share with you.  When you give your power away, you also give away your confidence and self-esteem.

Our circumstances might be different, but if any of this resonates with you, and you are ready to reclaim your personal power and reconnect with yourself. Than I encourage you to come back and see what tips you want to incorporate in your life.

“The hardest part of the journey, is the first step” – Anonymous

Confidently yours,
Diana Vento
 

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