How can you help someone build his or her self-confidence?  Building ones Self Confidence and Self-Esteem is a very personal journey.  Yes, we would like to see our love ones, friends, or co-workers have self-confidence. However, they have to want it.  You can’t do it for them.

Resist from telling someone how they should act, or what they should do.  Even if you think it’s just friendly advice, and it’s because you care.  It could make then feel worse.  People with low self-confidence and low self-esteem, are already beating themselves up.  Do you remember what it was like when your self-confidence and self-esteem were low? 

Remember, take 100% responsibility for yourself, and allow the other person to take their own 100% responsibility. 

So, what can you do?

You can be an example.  Show them how someone walks, talks and acts with confidence. When they see how confident you are, they might ask you how you did it.  This will be your opportunity to tell them how you’ve mastered self-confidence.  Remember, to keep your statement in the “I” and “for me” model.  Keep it about you, not about them.

You can always invite them to participate in your self-confidence building events.  Such as, Teleseminars, Groups, Lectures and such.  People hear things when they are ready.  So by inviting them, you are at least exposing them to a different way of thinking.  And someday they just might get that Aha moment. 

Also, explore the reasons what you want to change someone’s behavior.  Does that person’s behavior annoy you?  Are they trigging something inside you? Be clear on your motivation, and then take responsibility for your own personal growth.

Have Life Your Way,

diana vento

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