The Confidence Blog

One of the things I had discovered when I started my journey to building confidence was that I didn’t have a support system.  The Law of Attraction states, like attracts like, and I soon realized I had attracted people around me who supported my low confidence and low self-esteem.

I had thought I could do it alone, but when I came across those moments when I needed someone to listen to me, or encouragement, I felt my aloneness.  My friends and family were already annoyed that I was changing and changing the dynamics of our relationship.  So when I came to them, they were happy to assist me, and would help me like they always had, by encourage me to complain, and set blame.  Mind you, this was all done on a subconscious level.  It wasn’t mean spirited; they were acting as they always had.  I was the one who felt, saw and heard the difference, because I was the one who had changed.

When I realized the people I had surrounded myself with could not provide the type of support I needed to continue to grow, I put out an intention to attract people who were either on the same path as me, or who had already mastered it.  And they came.  I found people in support groups I attended.  I found them when I pursued my coaching and hypnosis certification.  I found them at expos.  I found a very special person, who I hired as my coach.  I made new friends and I continue to make new friends.  Now when I am having a stressful day or am down, I reach out to a support buddy, or my coach.  They allowed me to vent, but not complain.  They guide me to find my own solutions, because we all have the correct answer for us.  Our higher self, our intuitive self, knows what is good for us.  Sometimes we just need to clear the stuff in front of the door so we can open it and see our solution.

So I encourage you, if you don’t have a healthy, positive support system in place.  Get one.  All you have to do is ask.

To Your Success,
Diane

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