The Confidence Blog

For those in the US we will be celebrating Thanksgiving.

I would like to share some of the things I am thankful for with you.

I am thankful for all the new people I have meet this year, who have enriched my life.  Most encounters were pleasant, and some were challenging.  I am grateful for both because they have allowed me to redefine what I want.

I am thankful for the new consciousness that is evolving.

I am thankful for my teachers, Rhonda Britten, Karen Curry, Wayne Dwyer, Jack Canfield and especially Esther & Jerry Hicks (Abraham) who’s programs have allowed me to reach heights I never thought I could achieve.  I’ve been taught by the best.

I am thankful for my desire to learn, grow and show up in this world my authentic self.  Without my desire and wanting, I wouldn’t have gotten as far as I have.

I am thankful that I have this blog which allows me to share what I have learned, and teach how you too can successfully implement confidence into your life.

Now take a moment and write down what you are thankful for and share it with others.

Have A Happy Thanksgiving!

Diana

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I had a friend come to me the other day and thank me for a tip I gave her. In our previous conversation, she was telling me she couldn’t fall asleep at night because she would start thinking about everything she had to do the next day. She was focusing on all the things she hadn’t accomplish that day, and all she had to do the next day. Her mind working overtime, and she found it difficult to fall asleep. The more she thought about how much she had to do, the more overwhelmed, and stressed she became.

In our conversation, I had given her a suggestion. I suggested she focus on what did get done, instead of focusing on what didn’t get done. Like counting sheep, count your successes. Then you will see how much you have accomplished and you will feel satisfied.

She told me she was lying in bed, thinking of all the things she didn’t get to that day, and all she had to do the next day. While she was lying in bed getting stressed out and overwhelmed, she said “I heard your voice in my head telling me to review my day and list all my successes. I did and started feeling better and fell asleep.” The next night she started thinking about all she yet had to do. She said again my voice came into her head, and she started making a list of all she did that day. She took her children to get new shoes, went to the cleaners, made dinner, washed, folded and put away clothes. And the list went on. She said she fell asleep not feeling stressed, overwhelmed or guilty. She told me now she does this every night before she goes to sleep.

She took action! And every night she continues to take action. If she continues for 21 consecutive days, she will create a new habit. Like brushing her teeth every night she will automatically review her day and count her success. She will also find it will become easier and easier to fall asleep stress and worry free.

This technique can be used in any area of your life. When you continually list and acknowledge your successes, instead of focuses on your failures, you will see your self-esteem, and confidence improve.

To Your Success!
Diana

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One of the things I had discovered when I started my journey to building confidence was that I didn’t have a support system.  The Law of Attraction states, like attracts like, and I soon realized I had attracted people around me who supported my low confidence and low self-esteem.

I had thought I could do it alone, but when I came across those moments when I needed someone to listen to me, or encouragement, I felt my aloneness.  My friends and family were already annoyed that I was changing and changing the dynamics of our relationship.  So when I came to them, they were happy to assist me, and would help me like they always had, by encourage me to complain, and set blame.  Mind you, this was all done on a subconscious level.  It wasn’t mean spirited; they were acting as they always had.  I was the one who felt, saw and heard the difference, because I was the one who had changed.

When I realized the people I had surrounded myself with could not provide the type of support I needed to continue to grow, I put out an intention to attract people who were either on the same path as me, or who had already mastered it.  And they came.  I found people in support groups I attended.  I found them when I pursued my coaching and hypnosis certification.  I found them at expos.  I found a very special person, who I hired as my coach.  I made new friends and I continue to make new friends.  Now when I am having a stressful day or am down, I reach out to a support buddy, or my coach.  They allowed me to vent, but not complain.  They guide me to find my own solutions, because we all have the correct answer for us.  Our higher self, our intuitive self, knows what is good for us.  Sometimes we just need to clear the stuff in front of the door so we can open it and see our solution.

So I encourage you, if you don’t have a healthy, positive support system in place.  Get one.  All you have to do is ask.

To Your Success,
Diane

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