The Confidence Blog

Like a thief in the night, stress will steal your confidence.  I know this from personal experience. 

In the past when I was stressed I found it easy to fall into old destructive habits and patterns of bad behavior. The doubt, negative self talk, the confusion, being overwhelmed, frustrated, procrastinating, giving up, beating myself up and not taking care of me by putting my well-being first.  I would find myself on the defensive, instead of being in control of me.

Fortunately, now when this happens, I now have tools to stop it from going any further. For example, depending on what I need, I’ll use the Sedona Method, EFT, Self-Hypnosis, or talk to a supportive friend who will allow me to vent, but not complain.  I’ve learned how to stop, take a moment, pay attention to the conversations in my head and not take it personally.

Dealing with your stress, will not only keep your body healthier, but it will also clear your mind and allow you to make empowered decisions.  It will let you take control of your life.

Start dealing with your stress today.

Here are some tips for preventing stress from robbing your confidence.

1. Don’t allow people to take their frustrations out on you.  I have a friend who tells her employer, “I don’t get combat pay” when her employer or someone in the company would yell and scream at her over an issue. 
2. Learn how to say no. Especially if you don’t want to do it.
3. Stop, take a moment, and take 3 deep breaths.  With each breath inhale calmness, and exhale the stress.
4. Don’t make it your problem. Let others be responsible for their own actions, thoughts and feelings.  You don’t have to fix anyone’s problems.
5. Don’t try to be perfect. You don’t have to know and do everything.
6. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
7. Reach out to coworkers, spouse, friends and family who can give you emotional support. 
8. Look for the correct tools to help you stop everyday stress and effectively deal with unavoidable stress.
9. Look for the silver lining.  Ask yourself, what you can learn, or how can you do it differently next time.
10. Let go and stop worrying about things for which you have no control. 

 
Remember,  a Stress Free day is a Confident Day!

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If you really want to become more self-confident and have more self-esteem, then you are going have to be willing to change.

Building your confidence and esteem is not an overnight process.  It takes commitment, dedication and desire.  It takes finding the tool that will work for you and integrating them into your daily life.

What do I mean by integrating? I mean putting into practice what you learn every day. 

It is similar to when you learned how to walk. Have you ever watched a baby learn how to walk?  First they crawl around. Then they pull themselves up and hold onto something, a table, couch or someone’s hand while finding their balance. Once they have found their balance they then take that first step.  They don’t immediately get up and start running. No they repeat the process over and over, and with each repeating they become steadier and take more risk.  They continue until they find that perfect balance and are walking without assistance. When that happens, they don’t think about it anymore, because it becomes second nature.

The same thing happens when building your self-confidence and self-esteem.  The couch, table or helping hand, can represent books, seminars, or a coach.  Once you have found your balance, the tool that inspires you, you can then start practicing.  As you put into action what you have learned you will find that every day, you will become stronger and find that balance which will allow you to be more confident. Before you know it you won’t even have to consciously think about what to do, or how to act.

You will start:
Feeling good about yourself,
Asking for what you want
Willing to try something new
Loving yourself
Putting yourself first.
AND. . .

You can be, do and have anything you want!

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